The most recent situation I’ve encountered is the “if you don’t agree with me, I’ll pick on you” game. At certain pivotal points people when speaking need to be listened to AND agreed with. If for some reason you don’t agree and you state your opinion, even in a passive “oh by the way” easy-going manner, you’ll see the split-second glare, probably followed by a few word stumbles while they take what you said into consideration and finish the conversation as if nothing really bothered them. Then…wait for it….wait for it….wait for it…. once the topic changes suddenly the next most interesting topic is criticizing something personal about you. This will definitely make me avoid someone for a while.
The next one is what I like to call the “set you up to put you down” game. This one I walk into all the time. It just works so well on me. Pick a topic that you know we both disagree on, bring it up by inquiring about how I recently responded less emotionally supportive than you think I should have. I will defend my reasoning on the matter to show that I meant no ill harm, “the situation has nothing to do with me so it is reasonable for me not to get involved”. Then respond to me with something like, “well, I don’t think you’re always rational”. And I didn’t think it was necessary to bring up the topic.